I am in love with anything that is fairy-tale inspired. I am captivated by the idea of someday being able to experience that most beautiful, magical,painful, terrifying, maddening, and joyous feeling that is meticulously described in every fantasy-princess storybooks. I would love to someday live my own ‘happily ever after’—but somehow,in the present, it seems as though I decided that I would NEVER EVER EVER aspire to follow HOW these fictional princesses got themselves into their so-called “happy endings.”
Growing up with Disney princesses affected my way to perceiving a girl’s life and a girl’s role in society. These stories subtly instilled to me messages about the thought of every girl needing that “perfect prince charming” to bring change into their lives, to save them from the rut they’re living, to reach their dreams, and finally to live that happily ever after. It was prince charming who changed Cinderella’s life from rags to riches. It was prince charming who brought back life to Snow White with a true love’s kiss. It was prince charming who killed the dragon and saved a patiently-waiting Rapunzel in the tower. It was prince charming who woke Aurora up from her deep sleep. Ariel changed the way she is (mermaid),into something she is definitely not (human), just for the sake of prince charming. Is that right? Women solely relying her hopes, dreams, and future in the hands of men?
A woman of God is bound to live an abundant life in their own right and with that she must submit all her hopes, goals, aspirations, and plans solely in God’s handsand not in any man. Real women are not "Rapunzels" who idly sit on the tower waiting for a prince to come and bring her out. Real women strive to try and try and try to get herself out of her limitations. Real women are not "Cinderellas" whose way to riches is by easily making a prince fall in love with her and marry her, but rather she finds her passion and works hard enough to live a good life out of her own sweat and efforts. Real women are not "Ariels" who would change their whole identity just to be accepted in their man's world. Of course, it is okay to have someone special help you out, but my point is that it is not good and healthy to depend everything on "prince charming"—real women depend on GOD and persevere with her God-given talents.
Let me just make it clear that I have nothing against having the love of your life bring you closer to your dreams; in fact, I am admittedly a hopeless romantic who seems to be blindly optimistic and easily swayed—BUT! Growing up is inevitable and so is growing wiser (hopefully, in my case)...and these are few
of the many things I learned about being a woman.
of the many things I learned about being a woman.
WOMEN MAKE GREAT LEADERS
A woman is nurturing enough to be a great doctor, practical and wise enough to be a successful business woman, articulate enough to be an impactful media practitioner, sensitive enough to govern a city, or even a country. She is organized, hard-working, and intelligent to carry out the world’s biggest responsibilities while she loves and cares enough to be more than willing to finish all her duties—all for the sake of her family and her society.
Moreover, I do refuse to accept some connotations of a woman that she is made to be merely an assistant of her man to obey his every demand and leave nothing to herself, because if so, then why are women blessed by God with free will and a need for self-fulfillment? A real man should not think of his woman as an assistant to command, but rather as a partner to compromise. Don’t get me wrong, I do not want to end up being the one who wears the pants in the relationship. I, of course, want to end with someone with great leadership as he is going to be the head of the family. And a good leader listens. I firmly have faith in the power of listening and of a two-way communication.
THERE IS MORE THAN WHAT MEETS THE EYE
The last thing I want to hear from people is the phrase “just a pretty face,” but it seems worse that our society in this era of pop culture looks at women now as bootylicious, sugar mama, hoes, and the like. Popular music nowadays could push men into thinking that they can just “grab somebody sexy and tell ‘em hey!”
Such negative portrayals of women in media.
Women aren’t beauty objects nor aren’t they “sex objects” as the media portrays through erotic magazine covers, controversial billboards, and seductive dances in our daily noontime shows—these demeaning portrayals of women can affect men’s perception on women and can be the springboard for violence and abuse (whether physical, verbal, psychological, sexual, and emotional).
That is why I am thankful that Miriam College educated me with the law R.A. 9262 also known as “Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004.” Just by understanding fully this act by heart, I can say that I am protected with a layer of awareness of what violence is—from its definition, to its legal limitations, to its implications. And with this I encourage all women out there to study this law especially made for you and your protection. Be your own knight in shining armor!
Women are beautiful individuals of substance. We are intelligent and well-read. We have a unique way of thinking that we are able to generate creative ideas and develop innovative insights. We are smart enough to know that we deserve to be treated with respect.
SO TO ALL WOMEN OUT THERE...
Give it all up to God, and then it is God’s call to bless you with the man He prepared for you to love for the rest of your life. Put God on top and pursue His purpose for you, instead of wasting your precious moments and emotions for someone who just might end up breaking your heart. Chase your dreams and get to your own direction. Be who you are as an individual, and do not be any man’s dithering trophy. Let God be the one to lead you to the right person, in the right time, and at the right place. Give yourself that privilege to experience what it feels like to be in love with God’s will—whether it’s your career,your calling, your family, or finally…the love of your life
Love,
Hazel
Love,
Hazel
I don't need a prince to be a princess, I already have a King...but I ask my King everyday to someday lead me to a man after His own heart. (Paras, 2013) HAHAHA!
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